Couples in Crisis

In couples therapy, we create a space where you can both talk about what’s difficult. We work with what you don’t feel is working. This requires you to be open to giving yourself and each other the chance for something new to happen. Couples therapy takes its starting point where the shoe pinches – where there is silence, unfulfilled desires, disagreements, mistrust, conflicts, unequal power relations, something that repeats itself or where there is doubt about the relationship.  

I listen to the uniqueness of your problems. Through this, something new can happen. 

My work in couples therapy, Parterapi Frederiksberg, is based on the experience of psychoanalysis. When we form couples, the unconscious is in play and we cannot immediately understand everything that repeats itself. 

In couples therapy, we need to listen to what is unconsciously speaking in your difficulties. When we can hear it in a new way, it can loosen up. In other words, we don’t cut away the difficult things, we use them to help you move on and live with the normal difficulties of the relationship.  

In the first counselling session, I usually get a sense of what’s at stake for you and what we need to work on. Over the course of the next few conversations, I get an idea of the time horizon.

There are programmes that are short, maybe 3-5 times, and others that take longer. Individual therapy can be a complementary option. 

You both need to be prepared to schedule two sessions ahead and priorities your appointments.

There are phases in therapy where some things are more difficult than others, and it’s important to understand that these fluctuations are also part of the work.

The end of the programme is just as important as the beginning and must always take place through a conversation with me.